Forgiveness

Forgiveness is something that can be very hard to do because we feel like someone doesn't deserve our forgiveness. 

"It's the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don't deserve
It's the opposite of how you feel
When they pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word" (Matthew West - Forgiveness).

These are the first part of the song Forgiveness by Matthew West and it's such a true statement. When someone has hurt us in any way, doesn't have to be physical, the only way we can start to heal fully is by forgiving the person or people who had hurt us in the first place. We don't want to forgive them because we feel like they deserve whatever that they did. It's especially hard when someone does something horrible to a loved one and if that person is "sorry" for doing it we feel that they need to live with that pain that they are feeling.

We don't want to be vulnerable in that moment of forgiveness because that is what it takes to say "I forgive you." We need to let go of all that pride/ego of not wanting to forgive someone. It will bring healing to our lives when we can step back and decide for ourselves to turn away from all that pain and suffering in order to better our life.

We can go to God and ask Him for forgiveness in the sin that we commit every single day and ask Him to give us a heart of forgiveness, but if we don't face the physical aspect of whoever has hurt us or someone else then we can't fully move on from it. God can fix anything that He wants to and He will do it, but it takes work on our part as well.

"It'll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you" (Matthew West - Forgiveness).

If we hold a grudge against someone or hold onto all that pain that we are feeling from a past hurt then we will start to spiral into darkness. The only way to get out of that never-ending spiral of darkness is to let go of all of it and just hand it over to God. We can still forgive someone even if they aren't aware of what they did to deserve it, but it will make us feel better and it will probably make them feel better in some way. Just forgive and let that healing begin.