The 5 love Languages

This is a book that is really informational. There are 5 love languages and they're;

1) Words of Affirmation

2) Quality Time

3) Acts of Service

4) Receiving Gifts

5) Physical Touch

If you're in a relationship your partner along with yourself might have different love languages and knowing what it is is important, so you know what not to do to hurt their feelings. There is a book, which is the picture, and a online test that will determine what your love language is. It's a her and him tests to make it easier to figure out. Sometimes you and your partner may have the same love language, but usually it will be different.

For example my boyfriend's primary love language is physical touch while mine is quality time. He likes touching and stuff like that while I just want to spend time with him. Physical touch sometimes makes me uncomfortable after a little bit. I mean I like hugs, but not really long ones which is completely different from when I was little.

You should find out what your love language is and if you are in a relationship you should have your partner do it as well. 

Passions

 

    

Everyone has something that they are passionate about and it can be literally anything. For example one of my passions is reading. Reading for me is something I do for fun plus its relaxing for me. Being able to disappear into a good book is an amazing feeling for me and I'm able to actually imagine what is happening in the book I'm reading. A lot of people ask me why I love to read and my answer is that is that its enjoyable to me. Reading is one of my passions and I won't change that for anything. Your passions can be varied from video games, fashion, writing, drawing, etc and all those are completely valid. No matter what your passions are (if they are safe things lol) continue doing them because you like those things and that is what matters. They're going to be people who won't like what you love to do, but ignore those type of people because you shouldn't let other people ruin your happiness.

If you don't know what a passion of yours is that's okay. You will figure it out when you get started with a hobby and you start to really like it then there you go. That could be considered a passion and you should continue to do it. If you like to do something don't stop just because there might be a person who is trying to tell you that its dumb or stupid or just stop altogether because there will always be able who either disagree with what you are doing or will try to stop you from doing it. The important thing is that you like it and nobody else. Don't let peer pressure dictate what you like doing because you're going to ultimately regret it. Continue doing what you love to do and stay strong while you do it. 

School difficulties

School. The place where we go to learn about all kinds of things that can be either fun or boring. School is something that people either like or they dread or both. I was the both kind of person. I loved school, but I struggled. I struggled in math most of all because it doesn't come naturally to me like it does for a lot of other people. Now, don't get me wrong people can like and enjoy math, but not me. Math was one of my hardest subjects when I was in school and it sucked.

School can come with a variety of difficulties, whether that is with classes, friends, bullies, etc, and it can wear a person out having to deal with all that stuff. I didn't really struggle with the bullies part, but I had my problems in classes. It was hard for me to get through high school and graduate because I was having trouble grasping concepts and it really wore me out.

I came really close to not graduating because I had a lot on my plate. First semester I was literally taking three math classes (Geometry, Algebra 2b, and Personal Finance), an AP English class, and then my extracurricular classes. I had to take geometry again because I failed it in Sophomore year, but my teacher wasn't all that great and I was the only senior in that class. I just couldn't learn from her and it was bad. I ended up having to do credit recovery after school during the second semester because I had failed a marking period and I had to get that credit in order to graduate.

My AP class was stressful because we did a lot of essays and I'm not that good at essays. I got one A on a paper out of that whole year (the only A I ever got doing essays in all my years at school). My algebra 2b class was alright because I could actually learn from the teacher that I had and personal finance was okay as well.

I did end up graduating though which was nice. I was told that I had to pass all my extracurricular classes, the AP class, and either Algebra 2b or Personal Finance. That entire year was a complete struggle for me, but I kept telling myself that I was going to graduate and I did. Plus I got through two years of college, which was a whole other experience.

The point is that if you are one of those people who struggle in school it's okay. You can get through it and it will turn out alright. I know that's easier said than done, but I believe in you. If you need to you can write yourself little sticky notes that has motivation quotes on it and stick them all around your room or on your textbooks/notebooks/planner so you can always see it. You can listen to motivation videos in the morning to hype you up before you go to school. You do have the strength to finish the year and eventually school in general. Stay strong and believe in yourself.

Keep pushing through

You have made it this far you can keep on going. Don't give up halfway through the fight. You got this. Believe that you can finish strong. You can do anything you put your mind to. Ignore those who will try to prevent you from finishing. Stay true to yourself and continue to do whatever it is you're doing. 

Here is a song that will hopefully give you inspiration

You're not alone

This is true because you are always going to have someone on your side. I know it will probably won't feel like that is the case. There will be one person who will care about you no matter what and they won't abandon you when things are going wrong. Plus there is always God who will also stay by you through whatever you are doing through.

You will never be alone through life and it's important that you know and believe that. If you know that you are not completely alone things might be a tad easier and that is a very important thing. You will be able to get through anything if you stay strong and you don't give up. If there is a friend or an adult who has been there for you through thick and thin you should go to that person, so they can help the best they can. Even if it's just listening to you explain/rant about whatever is going on is enough. Keep your head up and stay strong. You got this.

Depression/Suicide

I know that there is a lot of people in the world who suffer from depression and suicidal thoughts. If you dial the number in the photo you can talk to someone about it, so you don't do something that will harm you and others. I'm not going to pretend to understand what depression feels like or having suicidal thoughts, but what I can do is listen. I have always told all my friends that if they need someone to talk to or even someone to listen to you as you talk about whatever is going on and that's true. I have said that.

Suicide isn't the answer to a problem, but those of you who are struggling with those type of thoughts would disagree with me and that's fine. You might also think that there is nobody that cares about you or what you are going through, but know that I will care. I don't know everyone and not everyone knows me, but I can still care about people and I will. Just knowing that there is one person who will care about you will hopefully give you some hope.

I know quite a few people who have tried or committed suicide or even struggling with depression or suicide thoughts at one point and honestly I don't get it, but I do at the same time in a way. Things happen that are devasting or hard to handle at times that can be difficult to pull yourself out of, but you can always pray. Prayer is really important when hard things are going on because God will honor those prayers and will help you through it. It's true that He might not answer right away or the way we want, but He still hears our prayers.

I realize that not everyone believes in God, but you can still pray and talk out loud about the things that you are struggling with. There are people who care about you and who will miss you if you die. If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter feel free to message me and I will talk to you to the best of my ability. You can also call the hotline or they even have a way that you can message someone on the hotline that you can talk to if you don't feel like a phone call. Stay strong and believe that things will turn around. You got this.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is something that can be very hard to do because we feel like someone doesn't deserve our forgiveness. 

"It's the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don't deserve
It's the opposite of how you feel
When they pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word" (Matthew West - Forgiveness).

These are the first part of the song Forgiveness by Matthew West and it's such a true statement. When someone has hurt us in any way, doesn't have to be physical, the only way we can start to heal fully is by forgiving the person or people who had hurt us in the first place. We don't want to forgive them because we feel like they deserve whatever that they did. It's especially hard when someone does something horrible to a loved one and if that person is "sorry" for doing it we feel that they need to live with that pain that they are feeling.

We don't want to be vulnerable in that moment of forgiveness because that is what it takes to say "I forgive you." We need to let go of all that pride/ego of not wanting to forgive someone. It will bring healing to our lives when we can step back and decide for ourselves to turn away from all that pain and suffering in order to better our life.

We can go to God and ask Him for forgiveness in the sin that we commit every single day and ask Him to give us a heart of forgiveness, but if we don't face the physical aspect of whoever has hurt us or someone else then we can't fully move on from it. God can fix anything that He wants to and He will do it, but it takes work on our part as well.

"It'll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you" (Matthew West - Forgiveness).

If we hold a grudge against someone or hold onto all that pain that we are feeling from a past hurt then we will start to spiral into darkness. The only way to get out of that never-ending spiral of darkness is to let go of all of it and just hand it over to God. We can still forgive someone even if they aren't aware of what they did to deserve it, but it will make us feel better and it will probably make them feel better in some way. Just forgive and let that healing begin.

Kindness

Kindness matters a whole lot because it will make someone's day when they are treated with it. If we are kind to someone we never know what they had been going through for that day and we can make them smile when we are kind. It doesn't take much for us to be kind. We can smile at someone or say hi or anything like that for kindness to be a thing. 

We don't have to be mean to people at all, but we think we can just because we are able to. We should be showing everyone the kindness that they deserve and not be showing them hate. We want people to be kind to us, but we tend to not be kind in turn. That's not how it should work at all. We always saw treat others the way that they want to be treated, but when it comes down to it we don't. 

Jesus Himself was kind to people when he walked the Earth and so why can't we emulate what He did. That's what we are supposed to be doing, but instead we do whatever we want disregarding what the Bible tells us. It's true that not everyone are Christians, but it is still common sense to be kind to people regardless.

Patience

Patience is important because you have to be patient in all things. It can really hard to be patient because we want things down right away instead of having to wait for it. It takes a lot of self-discipline to be able to wait for things to happen. When we learn to be patient we won't be impatient and do something that isn't a good idea.

When we do something in order to speed up whatever we want to happen there is a tendency for that thing to not end well. We can always do something else while we are in the waiting stages to distract us. That is a form of being patient because if we are distracted then there will be no reason for us to be impatient. 

When we can learn to be patient we will have a better time in life itself because we will be able to wait for things to happen. It is a good thing to practice and to live out patience because it will help us deal with situations that could be difficult to deal with if we don't have patience. In order to have patience we need to be diligent in our practice of learning to be patient.

Telling the Truth

Telling the truth is something that everyone should do on a daily basis. If you did something that you shouldn't have done resulting in getting in trouble then you need to tell the truth right then and there. You might still get in trouble, but it won't be as bad as lying would be. Lying will only make things worse, but eventually you will have to decide that the truth will be more beneficial. 

For example: If your a child and you smack your brother or sister, but you decide that you aren't going to own up to it. You figure that you are just going to lie about it, but the right thing would be to tell the truth instead since your punishment is going to be worse if you lie.

It's always better to tell the truth even if it will cost you something because you can ruin friendships if you lie all the time. The truth can be hurtful at times, but honesty is important and should be treated as such.

Love

 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishoner others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..." (1 Corinthians 13:4-a).

This verse is such a perfect way to describe what love is because it is true. I feel like sometimes we have a negative viewpoint of what love is because it can hurt depending on the circumstance. God's love for us is so wholesome and amazing that He will never ever stop loving us no matter what. When we think negatively about love it can impact the way we see it on a daily basis. 

Love is something precious and it shouldn't be something that we think of as hurtful. I know that there is times when we get hurt by people who claim that they love us, but if we can look past all that and just sit on the truth of God's love then that is all that matters. The truth of the matter is that we can't let our mind trick us into believing that love as a whole is hurtful and that we can be hurt if we fall in love with someone because it doesn't do us any good in the long run.

People fall in and out of love all the time and yes it can be devasting, but we can't allow ourselves to think that it is like that always. It is important to see the positive aspects of love and turn that truth into something that won't affect who we are. If you are scared to love someone, whether it is for a romantic relationship or a family love or even loving yourself, then look to God for that perfect love.

Respect

Respect is something that everyone and I mean everyone should be given no matter if you like them or not. You don't have to like the person at all, but they still deserve to be respected no matter what. Do unto others as you would want to be done to you. In other words if you want to be respected then you need to respect others. Who cares if they are different from you or what you disagree with they are still people and they deserve to be treated as such. That also goes with whoever is the President of the United States. 

You don't have to like whoever is in charge, but they were put in office for a reason and a purpose and should be treated as anyone else: with respect due to their station. I know that there is a lot of people who doesn't like President Trump right now and that's fine. You don't have to, but you shouldn't be talking crap about him or try to get him to be overthrown just because of that. It doesn't matter if he has made mistakes in the past or even if he is right now because everyone makes them all the time. That just makes him human just like the rest of us.

It's true that respect should be earned, but if you don't respect someone yourself then why should that person respect you in turn. It goes both ways and if you're not going to do your part then they aren't going to do theirs. This world is crazy and messed up as it is let's not add on to it by being jerks to other people just because we disagree over what they are doing. If someone is saying mean things to you be a bigger person and just walk away from the situation instead of saying something back because it will just escalate things. Just respect other people and stop hating on them for no reason.

Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem is something that a lot of people struggle with at one point or another especially during the middle school and high school years. It's important for friends or people close to the person that is struggling with self-esteem issues to build that person up not tear them down. They might not believe what we say, but if we continue to be there for them and not be dismissive of they feel then maybe we can help them through it. It is essential that if we know someone who is struggling with self-esteem that we are supportive of them and not be people who will bully them for how they are they feeling because we could make it worse if we don't support them.

When we make fun of someone for having negative feelings about themselves it's called bullying and it isn't right. Bullies sometimes bully because there might be something in their life that they themselves are struggling with, but that doesn't make it okay. Self-esteem isn't just something that girls experience. Boys can experience it too and we need to understand that.

If anyone you know even if it's just someone you aren't friends with and they start talking about not liking anything about themselves then they are probably having self-esteem issues. We shouldn't ignore what they are saying and be mean to them for it. What they are feeling is valid and they should have people who will talk them up, like say good things about them, and not talk them down by saying things that will potentially make it worse. It will just escalate things and we can cause them harm by the words that we speak. 

We need to listen to them and try to be understanding. Even if we don't know how to help them feel better about themselves they still might need someone to listen to them regardless. That's how we can be helpful to all kinds of people who are struggling with something. Just listen to them when they want to be listened to because they might not feel like they have someone to do that.

Relationships

 

Relationships are important because it shows that you care about other people. A relationship doesn't necessarily mean a romantic one. It can be one you have with a friend or family or God, but a real authentic relationship should be one with trust and care for that other person. If you end up in a romantic relationship with someone that relationship has to have love as a main source because if you don't love that person you are with then what's the point of being in it in the first place. It doesn't just have to have love either because there is other aspects that go into it. Like trust and honesty.

 

Trusting someone can be hard and scary sometimes because you don't know if that other person will betray that trust, but we should still trust them even if that was going to be a thing plus if we are afraid of them betraying our trust then we will make mistakes and put pressure on the relationship. We should do what we can to not put pressure on the relationship because that's how they end. If we truly love that other person then we should anything we can to keep them from leaving and the way to do that is to make sure that there is no room for them to doubt us. That is where honesty comes in. Lying to our partners is going to make things worse in the long run because at some point they are going to find out that we are lying to them. Being honest with them might still cause issues, but it is better to be up front and honest instead of keeping everything to ourselves.

 

Now maybe at something in the future we want to marry that person, so we propose to them and now we are engaged (if they say yes that is) and then, if we're lucky, we get married. Marriage is a whole other ball park because now we get to spend the rest of our lives together with that person. That marriage has got be filled with love, trust, and honesty among other things if we want it to survive. There is going to be things that are going to pop up that is going to test that marriage and if we aren't on the same page with our husband or wife then it could potentially end in divorce.

 

In relationships we shouldn't so anything that is going to jeopardize that relationship because it could end with a friendship ending, a break up, or a divorce if we aren't in the relationship that should be our top priority and that is the one that we have with God. He is the only one who isn't going to leave us no matter what because He loves us so much. He will be disappointed in us sometimes because we, as humans, will fail a lot and we won't always do the right thing, but He will always be right there. Those other relationships will only last if we allow God to be a part of them right from the beginning because He can direct it in order for it to be long-lasting.

Spiritual Warfare

 Spiritual Warfare is a real thing and we should be aware of it because it is happening even as I write this. Eventually all of the Christians who will join God in Heaven will be a part of the war between God with his Angels and Satan with his Demons. There is armor we can ready ourselves with everytime we get up in the morning. Ephesians 6:13-18 speaks of the armor of God that we should be wearing at all times because we never know when Satan is going to strike next.

It's vitally important that everyone realizes that spiritual warfare is going on and that just because we can't physically see it doesn't mean that it isn't an actual thing. Be alert of all things and if it is not from God don't succumb to the desires and lies of Satan. Don't allow yourself to be deluded into thinking that this isn't a thing because it is and if you aren't prepared you can get attacked and you won't be able to defend yourself.